Friday Is for Freebies: Manhood Restored

manhood-restoredMy giveaway this Friday is the Manhood Restored Leader Kit and trade book. This book, from the exciting new pastoral voice of Eric Mason, combines theological depth with practical insights, putting men in step with a gospel-centered manhood that directs them back to God’s original intent for their lives.

The Manhood Restored Leader Kit can get your group, or your entire congregation, on the same page about masculinity. The study is biblically rooted and gospel-centered. And you can be confident that each group is getting sound teaching, through the videos of Dr. Mason. Additional video features other men and their stories to help participants in the study understand they are not alone in their challenges. Manhood will always be in crisis until Jesus returns. But in Christ, men can be restored with ever increasing glory into the undefiled image of God. This six-session study leads men on a journey through masculinity, with Bible-study sessions on the problems men face, God’s solutions, and the restorations of worldview, sexuality, vision, and family.

IAMAChurchMember-webAlso included in this week’s giveaway is a signed copy of my new book I Am a Church Member. Based on an idea originally taken from this blog, I Am a Church Member discusses the attitudes and responsibilities of church members. I address in detail what congregations should really be focusing on—praying for church leaders, being a functioning member, treasuring church membership, and more.

Six chapters with these titles include study questions to guide the discussion:

  1. I Will Be a Unifying Church Member
  2. I Will Not Let the Church Be About My Preferences and Desires
  3. I Will Pray for My Church Leaders
  4. I Will Lead My Family to Be Healthy Church Members
  5. I Will Be a Functioning Member
  6. I Will Treasure Church Membership as a Gift

To enter the giveaway, tell us what man has had the most positive influence on your life.

The deadline to enter is midnight CDT this Saturday. We will draw one winner from the entries on Monday morning.

By entering, you acknowledge and accept the terms of the promotion.


  1. Sam says

    Bryan Cline! He’s one the most spiritual men I know who not only cultivated a great relationship with The Lord, but who also raise two boys who I still look up to as spiritual giants…

  2. Daryl Miller says

    As a freshman in high school my basketball coach, Chris Rockwell, was a father figure to me. He died in a tragic car accident and that changed my life forever.

  3. Tom Covington says

    The greatest male influence in my life is my father, Lt. Col. Fred Covington. As a child he taught me service to others, the importance of family over career or money, and the honor of hard work. As an adult I watch him suffer from Parkinson’s and am learning what it means to face every season of life with dignity and grace.

  4. says

    My childhood Sunday school teacher, Ray Knapp. He invested time into my life in a real way and guided me as I was growing up. I was able to observe as he led my father to the Lord. He was definitely a influential man in my life.

  5. says

    Growing up in church, some of the men that influenced me most, and I didn’t really realize it until later, were the church men. Those guys that were just there every single Sunday. They didn’t say much or do much to impact my life, but every time I opened the church doors on Sunday morning, they were in position, greeting everyone and serving in the church each week. My dad was always around, but it reinforced the idea even more when my “church dads” were around also. I can’t wait to thank them one day in heaven. They don’t even know they did anything!

  6. says

    Definitely my dad. He is the hardest working, most godly man I know. He is honest and has great integrity and is a true father.

  7. Jessica Lindblad says

    I would say my grandfather. He was a devoted church member and humble follower of Christ. His love for people and zeal for the Lord have had a great impact on me and my life.

  8. Coby says

    My SS teacher from when I was a teenager, Joe Beach. I never knew my dad. He was godly example to me during those years.

  9. says

    Most influential man whose made a positive impact on my life is one of my high school teachers, Mr. Robert Perry. Mr. Perry was my instructor for world geography, history, and yearbood. Far beyond what he taught me in the classroom, was what he taught me about life. He let me into his life; I hung around with his family; I ate with them; I saw him role model in both a professional environment and in his home how to be a man, how to lead and how to love. Mr, Perry died two years ago. I was honored to represent his former students by speaking at his funeral. He has made, and continues to make, an enormous impact on my life.

  10. says

    It would have to be my dad, even though, sadly, I didn’t realize the fullness of his impact until he suddenly passed away in 2011. The other would have to be my favorite preacher of all time, Dr. Dan Ferrell, who pastors the Morning Star Baptist Church in Cincinnati, OH.

    Would I improve my chances if I said Thom Rainer? :)

  11. says

    My dad has a positive influence on my life. He has been a pastor for 50+ years. He is currently the pastor a few hours away from me. I am a pastor so I call him to discuss issues and get his wisdom to lead the church. My dad demonstrated faithfulness not only in serving God as a pastor, but in giving care to my mom who became disabled in her later years. He continued to pastor while giving care to his wife. She died four years ago, and I will forever be thankful to my dad for loving my mom, and giving me an example to follow in this world.

  12. Tim Terhune says

    My father. He didn’t become a believer until I was 5. Even though I was young I can still remember noticing the changes Christ made in my Dad’s life. He continues to model quiet, humble faithfulness to the Lord through good times and bad.

  13. Nick Horton says

    I wish I could say my Dad. I wish I could say he had the biggest influence on my life. However, he and my mom split when I was a toddler. He killed himself in a dark valley of depression when I was 19.

    I don’t have a list of good male influences to choose from. There have been good men in my life, but positive influences and passing acquaintances are different. I must then pick the man who led me to Christ at age 27. Chuck had the most positive influence in that he was used by God to lead me from death to life.

  14. says

    I have been eating lunch with an older friend every Tuesday for over a decade. He has taught me how to love my wife, how to trust God to work things out, and how to serve with joy.

  15. Michael Osweiler says

    The man with the most positive influence depends on how you look at it. My father was not the greatest person to be around. He was a racist, a bigot, and a sexist and could be a bit of a bully but he also worked long hours to provide for his family. The positive aspect of this was how not to be like him.

  16. says

    I’ve been really struggling for a Christian mentor
    In the last six months… I guess it would be my
    Neighbor who used to hold bible studies at his house …
    He is Very wise to the bible ….
    You can see his love for The Lord in his
    Actions … All about Jesus …
    Have a great week … And may others see how The Lord
    Works in you … And also want that relationship …

  17. says

    God has blessed me with many men in my life and still does, but I would have to narrow this down to my Grandfather, Charles Ray. He was the most humble, yet strongest leader I think I have ever known. Demonstrated Christ-likeness in every area of life.

  18. Terry Buster says

    My father, a man of God, loving husband/father/grandfather, stellar example, faithful pastor, and source of wisdom.

  19. Richard says

    My grandfather. He taught me about how to respect others. Place others before yourself. When may parents divorced he also took on the roll of father. He is dearly missed.

  20. Terry Felton says

    The man who had the most positive influence on me is my dad, a farmer who has been faithful to my mom for 45 years of marriage and shown me an incredible work ethic. However, there are 3 who are currently positively influencing me and they are my boys of ages 8, 4, and 2.

  21. Shawn Andrews says

    My Papa has been the most godly male figure in my life. He has shown me what it means to be a servant of the Lord by trying to model his life after our Savior. Now that I am pursuing a call into the ministry he has become one of my biggest cheerleaders.

  22. Joe says

    My uncle has been a big influence in my life. Being a spiritual leader and an example in my life when my father decided not to.

  23. Paul Wright says

    My dad modeled patience, love, hard work, humility and service in a way that greatly influenced who I am today.

  24. Tommy Rucker says

    My dad. Not so much when I was young, but as I grew, so did he, and when he died in 2005, he was my best friend and a truly godly man.

  25. says

    Sunday was Father’s Day. I don’t think I’ve ever written a tribute to my Dad. So this year, I will do my best to honor him.
    As a boy growing up in a variety of places, I often wondered how my Dad held our family together. We weren’t a family rich in material possessions, but we were a family rich in love and we always stood together in both good time and bad. What held our family together was the unmistakable impact that my father had on each one of us. Now that I am grown and a father myself, I’m confident that it was my Dad’s consistent faith in Christ and his strong belief in the power of prayer. His whole adult life focused on Jesus Christ and his family. He believed in God first and family second. Thirty-four years after his death, I can still envision him on his knees in prayer. It was a powerful lesson for all of us.
    He surely asked God for wisdom, for all three of us boys would continuously call on him for advice. We all trusted that what he told us would be right. I can’t remember a time when his counsel steered me in the wrong direction.
    Dad grew up in Depression days—a valid member of the Greatest Generation. He was a member of the US Army during WWII. Although he never served overseas, his management skills were quckly recognized. He was an excellent marksman and was assigned as a prison guard for the duration of his tour of duty. After he was discharged, he continued to provide for Mom, my brother and his cancer-ridden mother. He managed to do all of that on what was surely a minimum wage income.
    The Army identified his I.Q. as borderline genius; however, he never had the opportunity for a formal education. He was a self-taught musician and guitarist. He taught himself music theory and became an accomplished composer. He was also a self-taught mathematician who never received training in algebra, geometry, trigonometry, calculus, or statistics and yet he mastered those disciplines because, it just made sense to him. His English skills were impeccable. If we misused any part of speech, he would correct us immediately. He was known to say, “When people suspect you’re ignorant, why open your mouth and remove all doubt?” I still use that one today.
    His greatest and most profitable accomplishment was his knowledge of Scripture. Dad was an authentic theologian. He was a conservative who believed the Bible was not only inerrent but was his authority for life. Dad’s teaching skills were legendary. I still meet people who will say, “Your Dad taught me the Bible and led me to Christ.”
    His work ethic was amazing. I’m pretty sure that he worked really hard six days a week—every week, for most of his life. He was a salesman who earned a living by commission. He would spend days and days and days making cold calls. Because of his tenacity, he would often be recognized as top salesman of the month. In my keepsakes, I have several dozen certificates citing his sales skills. In today’s expectation of entitlement, few people have that kind of ethic.
    My favorite memory of Dad was the way he taught me to memorize Bible verses. He was an early riser who went to bed by 10:00 PM. When I was little boy, he would say, “I’m going to hit the sack. C’mon Tommy and I’ll teach you a new song.” Once in bed, he would sing the words of a song and we would then sing them together. Or, he would teach me a Bible verse until I could recite it back to him. As I grew older, I would sing in a variety of venues and Dad would always accompany me on his guitar. At 13, when I took up the guitar, it was Dad who taught me to play.
    He was a no-nonsense kind of man. One of his favorite sayings was “face the facts.” He was not a pessimist, instead, a realist. He was also a problem solver. I don’t think I ever heard him say, “I don’t know.” And I really do think he knew…well, everything.
    His death came much too soon; he was only 62. His last day of life was Thanksgiving 1978. Not to sound spooky, but I had a premonition that day—and I think he did too. Strokes strike so quickly; we had no warning. I did my best to give him CPR but it was not enough; and so he died that day. The next few weeks were so surreal. Mom decided to leave Phoenix and go to live with brother and his family. With her furniture packed, she left the day after Christmas assigning to me the responsibility to secure the house before I left. I remember standing in the den, with tears in my eyes, thinking that everything was gone and I would never go home again. If I close my eyes and try really hard, I can still hear his voice in my mind. I can hear him say, “Hey Bub,” one of his favorite nicknames for me.
    Everything I know about being a godly husband and father I learned from my Dad. He was my mentor, my teacher, my example and most certainly, my hero.
    Thank you, Lord, for allowing me to be one of the sons of Cliff Holland

  26. says

    My pastor growing up. A humble faithful pastor who served in obscurity. Visited my elementary school to eat lunch with me in 1st grade. From that point on he was one of my heroes and is one of the reason I’m a pastor today.

  27. Corey Sturdivant says

    I have had the pleasure of watching my father Pleas Sturdivant show me what it means to commit to your family through good and bad times, for richer or poorer, etc. He has definitely been major in that respect. I have also been blessed to have a father in ministry, Elijah S. Valley who showed me by example what it means to be a man of God and to serve with a spirit of excellence! Though we may not have many fathers, I thank God for these two men of valor!

  28. Rachel says

    I would have to say my husband has been the most influential man in my life. He is an amazing husband and father.

  29. Randall Cofield says

    My father…and his influence on me has been even more profound since he went to be with the Lord 16 years ago. He understood the times and knew what to do….

  30. Mike Madaris says

    A tie:
    –My Dad, who died suddenly when I was 15 (& he was 7 years younger than I am now). Still the best man I’ve ever run across. A simple country boy who served in the military & then started a small business that kept his name 20+ years after his passing. He loved his Lord, his wife, his 2 sons, his extended family, and his co-workers & friends, and his work–in that order! Today, 38 years after his passing, there are people back home who still tear up when they encounter Mom, my brother, or me. Not because of us, but because of Dad’s impact. On the back of every business card he handed out, he had the poem “The Little Chap Who Follows Me” printed, thereby announcing to every customer, potential customer, and supplier the VERY high priority he placed on building into his family. I got more “Daddying” in 15 years than many guys get in a life time. I still miss him hard, but praise God that because of the Gospel, a day is coming when I won’t have to miss him any more!
    –3 uncles who stepped up when Dad died & helped fill the huge hole in my life created by his passing. They furthered my training (by example, mostly) of what it means to be a man, husband, Daddy, church member, and worker.
    –Dr. John Mayfield, a veterinarian. Johnny & his wife discipled my wife & me when I was 30. They poured a year of their free time into us, and thereby changed the entire trajectory of my life and faith. That time was when I learned that my faith was supposed to impact the totality of my life, including my marriage, my parenting, my job, the way I deal with neighbors,…I am SO thankful for Doc’s building into me, and I am but one of many he’s invested his life in. (Aside: I emphasize, I was taught most of what I know about living out a full-orbed Christian faith by a _veterinarian_. I’ve loved pastors & writers who’ve helped with this, but it was one doing it in his spare time & not as his job who I’ve learned the most from.)

  31. Clint Johnson says

    Sure, my father. But also Jim Robinson, he has 30+ years experience in Children’s ministry. He has been mentoring me for several years and is a positive father figure and example of what God called men to be. His priorities: God first; wife second; his children third; his ministry next; and himself last!

  32. says

    When I was at Northwestern College my Old Testament professor showed me that the bible can be fun and exciting. He probably was the first in a long line of men who have pushed me towards godliness.

  33. Michael Sutherin says

    My current pastor, Wayne Engle. In the 5 years I’ve known him, I have learned what it means to love and cherish everything God has given us. He’s been there through all our troubles and has been our rock in tough times. PW will give his final sermon this weekend as he is retiring. As my dad would say, “he’s a pretty good one.”

  34. Doug Napier says

    For sure, my dad. He would be the first to say that he was never perfect. But, he is the absolute best dad I could’ve had!

  35. says

    Charlie Johnson. He was my “Junior Boys” Sunday School teacher back in the ’50’s. He was a postal worker. One Sunday morning he said he turned down a big promotion because it would have required him to work on Sundays, and he just could not do that. He had to be with “his boys.” I’ve never forgotten Mr. Johnson’s conviction about keeping the Day holy. I am now 68 years old, and hold that conviction to this day. Yes, I have had to work on Sunday a few times (“ox-in-the-ditch” issues) but not as a routine. Nor do my children nor grandchildren. Thank You, Lord, for this humble servant, who I am certain is with You today.

  36. Lane says

    Outside of Jesus (obviously), my dad has had the largest impact on me. He was a godly man and a pastor. Although me being a pastor is a separate calling from my father’s, God greatly used my father to teach me what it means to love people as He would.

  37. Rick says

    Both my dad and my father-in-law. Both in uniques ways. My dad has always been the sacrificial, hard working, steady rock. My father-in-law has been a role model for me on how to involve my entire family in our Christian walk. Together, they are showing me the man I need to be.

  38. says

    My dad, who taught me the value (and fun!) of hard work, that “anything worth doing is worth doing right,” the importance of integrity, how to tell a great story, and that following God isn’t always easy, but always worthwhile.

  39. Ron Stoehr says

    My father but he passed on in 2001. Since then over the last year and a half it has been my pastor Donavon Hill. He has led me back to a life for Christ and his steadfast teaching of the Gospel and biblical truths have helped me to become a disciple when I was not before.

  40. David Scammell says

    Most obviously, my Dad. But next on the list was my Scoutmaster, Mr. Berhow. A retired Marine who fought in 6 of the 7 campaigns of WWII before coming down with tuberculosis. I learned a lot of wonderful things from that man, including a love of God and Country. He also taught me something else just as important … you are who you are 24 hours a day, regardless if you’re wearing a uniform, a name badge or whatever. He was referring to Scouts, but I’ve since adapted it to my life as a Christ follower.

  41. says

    What man has had the most positive influence on your life?

    At different times in my life I have experienced the influence of some amazing men. Throughout my life, my father’s influence has never been far from me, as a man steeped in the church and in service, his example has been ever with me. However there have been others whose influence has been both fleeting and lasting. Growing up as a child in North London we were visited in the mid 1950’s by a priest friend of my father’s, Trevor Huddleston, who was returning from South Africa. His passion and expression of basic incarnational theology has been deep within me since sitting at the dinner table listening to his tales of Sophiatown and the chilling stories of the brutality of apartheid. Not long after we were blessed to have an African priest come and be the deacon at our church for a few years because he had grown up knowing Trevor Huddleston, that was Desmond Tutu, who arrived with his family and lived in community with us for a few years. The influence of my Godfather, Brother Arthur Taylor, who lived at Buckfast Abbey in Devon was great as he introduced me to annual retreats and the Benedictine movement. When I started working with the BBC in London I was influenced by the excellent preaching of John Stott, and was sometimes with him when he recorded programs for the BBC. There have been many others along the path, some for a day or an hour, some for a lifetime. Many whose sage wisdom has percolated though my life and actions in my service for God.

  42. Jonathan Ferguson says

    my old mentor/high school leader. led me to Christ, opened his home and family to me. showed me what a man of God looks like. 13 years after high school, I still look to him for advice.

  43. says

    By all means, the ONE man – aside from Christ – to have the greatest influence on my life is my father, Rev. Bud Swindall. He has remained faithful in his ministry, a godly leader for his family, an example and discipler of his sons and sons in laws, three of which have been, or are serving in some form of vocational ministry. And, to the benefit of several deacons, and myself, he taught me to turn the other cheek and let God have the vengeance instead of letting me do what I wanted to do to some of them when they didn’t understand that their role wasn’t to run the church but to serve it.

  44. Matt Haines says

    Early on, it was my pastor, Mickey Dalrymple who gave me ministry opportunities and exposed me to great preachers like Ron Dunn, Adrian Rogers, and W.A. Criswell. In recent years, my father-in-law Scotty Hogan has been a great mentor and encourager.

  45. Robbie Perkins says

    This may not be exactly what you’re asking, but for me it would have to be Jesus. There have been some good men who have taught me some things at different seasons of my life, but it is Jesus who has changed my life. He has influenced me more than any other and He continues to do it.

  46. Steve Richie says

    Jesus tops the list; my brother(in the flesh), Chris Richie; J. I. Packer, R.C. Sproul, Jonathan Edwards, Martin Luther, John Calvin… to name a few.

  47. Dr. Ralph Hawkins says

    Dr. Rodney Cloud, my undergraduate advisor, who convinced me to take Hebrew Grammar my first semester. This set me on a course that would lead to a major in biblical languages, a master’s degree, and a career in ministry and, eventually, the professorate. Dr. Cloud set me on tis path and has been a lifelong mentor and friend.

  48. George Barcus says

    There are many I could easily list here. My Granfather was very instrumental in so many ways to set me on the right path, My father was also a great insprotation to me and many others. For today though I am going to have to answer Tim Boykin. He is the one who can challenge me in any area and circumstance in my life. His influence has had a great impact on my ministry and will continue to do so for a long time.

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